Common myths

In the United States, an estimated 1 million men struggle with eating disorders too. This is in part because of increased media emphasis on men to achieve the "perfect" physique.

Our culture places such an emphasis on body size. It is no surprise that people struggle with body size and thoughts of food. Recovery involves repairing damage done to all aspects of a person's life. Eating normally is just one small part of the repair work.

Often, a person struggling with a binge-eating disorder or bulimia nervosa has a normal physical appearance or may carry a bit more weight than they would if they were following a normal meal plan.

This myth can be extremely frustrating for a person who has genetically inherited a slender body type. If a person is struggling with an eating disorder, signs and symptoms — other than a thin body — will be present.

This myth can be very painful for parents, especially mothers, who often are blamed for their children’s problems. No proof exists that parents cause their children to develop eating disorders. Parents should be viewed as part of the solution – working alongside their children to help them break free from their problem.

This myth is the exact opposite of what commonly is seen in people with eating disorders. Typically, a person with an eating disorder will be very strong-willed, competent and a high-achiever.

Unfortunately, many Americans struggle with alcoholism. A person struggling with an eating disorder may receive advice from someone recovering from alcoholism. Sharing stories about similar struggles in life can be helpful, but the recovery process will be different. A person recovering from alcoholism ultimately must stop drinking. A person struggling with an eating disorder cannot stop eating. Food must remain in the home, and "relearning" how to eat in a healthy way is one of many challenges.

This myth is difficult for both sides. The person struggling feels guilty if he or she cannot fix it quickly. The family becomes frustrated because they assumed treatment would make the eating disorder go away. Many patients say the time right after being hospitalized can be very difficult, because people think they are "cured." Typically, they are just beginning the recovery process. Recovery may take one year to five years, and is longer for some people.

Parents and siblings often need professional guidance. A person can find help by participating in Melrose Institute's friends and family support groups with others who have a loved one struggling with an eating disorder, reading about the topic and seeking support from friends and relatives.