Common myths

In America, 1 million men struggle with eating disorders. This is in part because of increased media emphasis on men to achieve the "perfect" physique.

Our culture places such an emphasis on body size, it stands to reason patients struggle with body size and thoughts of food. Recovery involves repairing damage done to all aspects of a person's life. Eating normally is just one small part of the repair work.

Often, a person struggling with a binge-eating disorder or bulimia nervosa has a normal physical appearance or may carry a bit more weight than they would if they were following a normal meal plan.

This myth can be extremely frustrating for a person who has genetically inherited a slender body type. If a person is struggling with an eating disorder, signs and symptoms — other than a thin body — will be present.

This myth can be very painful for parents, especially mothers, who often are blamed for problems their children experience. No proof exists that parents cause their children to develop eating disorders. Parents should be viewed as part of the solution – working alongside their children to help them break free from their problem.

This myth actually tends to be opposite of what commonly is seen in people with eating disorders. Typically, a person with an eating disorder will be very strong-willed, competent and a high-achiever.

Unfortunately, many Americans struggle with alcoholism. It is common for a person struggling with an eating disorder to receive advice from someone recovering from alcoholism. Although such a conversation can be helpful in terms of sharing stories about tough struggles in life, advice about recovery can be a problem. A person recovering from alcoholism ultimately must stop drinking. A person struggling with an eating disorder cannot stop eating. Food must remain in the home, and "relearning" how to eat in a healthy manner is one of many challenges.

This myth is difficult for everyone involved. The person struggling feels guilty if he or she cannot fix it quickly, and the family becomes frustrated because they assumed treatment would make the eating disorder go away. Many patients say the time period following hospitalization can be very difficult, because people think they are "cured." Typically, they are just beginning the recovery process. Recovery may take one year to five years, and is longer for some people.

Parents and siblings often need professional guidance. A person can find help by participating in family groups with others who have a loved one struggling with an eating disorder, reading books about the topic and seeking support from friends and relatives.